Ohhh Eym Gee..: A TALE OF A SHATTERED GIRL

Ohhh Eym Gee..: A TALE OF A SHATTERED GIRL: In love. Still in love with a guy whose heart does not contain my name anymore.             Our love was a “hot and cold” love. It beca...

A TALE OF A SHATTERED GIRL

In love. Still in love with a guy whose heart does not contain my name anymore.

            Our love was a “hot and cold” love. It became hot when we are in each other’s arms then cold when he’s far away. We live in a same town. I knew him back when I was a high school student because I often saw him making fun with his friends who are fortunately my acquaintances in our neighborhood. However, that time, I don’t have any feelings towards him. I don’t even know his name. He is just a tall, skinny, and playful guy.

            When I finished my secondary education, I decided to pursue my college degree in Iloilo. I enjoyed my stay there and developed a relationship that I thought would last for a lifetime with a marine guy. But God never favored it and we ended our relationship after three years. I thought I would not be able to recuperate my heart for a long time but.. surprise!, I became cheerful again after two to three weeks.

            It was mid-November 2010 when someone tried to converse with me through Facebook. To my surprise, he was the same guy in our town. At first, I don’t want to be his friend because he had the same course with my recent “ex”. I tried to avoid him as much as possible until he stopped communicating with me. I felt relief.

            But..

            He started contacting me after five months.

            I really don’t want to talk with him! But he keeps on insisting to have little talks with me until I decided to give him a chance. After all, we’re of the same town and adding a new friend on my list is not actually a bad idea. It started with small talks over the phone (because he is studying in Davao that time and I am also preparing myself to enter law school) until it became a routine of 11pm to 6am. Would you believe that? Haha.. But it’s true. We never talked about love, commitments, and courtship. It’s anything under the heat of the sun. I really saw him as my smart friend.

            Until, he started opening his heart to me. He told me that, unexpectedly, he fell in love with me. I was speechless. I was verbally constipated. Haha.. But, I don’t have feelings for him! I don’t want to lose a special friend. He matters. He courted me for two years. He patiently waited for me for a long time. But that two years was my chance to see his other side. He is so thoughtful. He never failed to contact me when he got a chance. At that time, he was completing his “On the Job Training” in a how many nautical miles. I never met him in person for that whole two years but was able to meet his family.

Until the day comes when we met for my panel interview where I was accepted as a law student..

I said, yes!

I fall in love with a marine guy.. AGAIN.

Things became hotter and happier. I felt love and care.

Until he came back from his school to finish his studies..

Things became colder and sadder. I felt hate and neglect.

Things became different. He rarely talks with me. Reasons were he was busy or tired or sleepy then next thing I know, he became a different person. I don’t know him anymore. Gone is the guy I talked with a couple of hours until the rooster crows in the morning. Gone is the guy who took great effort to make me smile. At first, I became a fool. I am blinded by love. I made efforts to salvage our love. But it’s hopeless when the other party does not appreciate your effort. I never thought our love became messy. I was contented and confident that our love has a strong foundation. Or so I thought. It became a one-sided love affair.

After 27 months, I decided to let him go. I realized that I am a girl who doesn’t deserve being an OPTION. It hurts! People said that it is more hurtful when a person you love broke up with you. But why does it feel so wrong? I let him go. I broke up with him! But why am I that person who feels this excruciating pain? I’ve been hurting myself for two years already. In fact, I’ve been hurting since the day I felt his love starting to fade. I love him so much that I let him go because he is not happy with me anymore. I can feel it. Every. Single. Day.

I decided to divert my attention to many activities. I tried everything so that I could forget him even for a moment. I have been asking God for help. To stop this madness. To stop this pain. I became dependent with God because I know He is my Great Comforter but why does my mind comes to our memories?

You know what’s the most crucial part of being in silence? That’s when I saw him crying before we broke up. Why did he even bother to cry? I let him go. He should be happy! Footspa naman o! What’s his reason for crying? Is it because he betrayed me? Is it because he can’t let me go but he had to for he doesn’t want to see me hurt anymore? Or am I that one who hurt him? Or am I that one who doesn’t understand him? There are so many questions that still linger in my head. I always end up thinking why he cried that day before he said that he loves me but he had to let me go, too. I still remember that last kiss he gave me, those tears he shed for me, those pain in his eyes, those hugs that trembles and unsure, and those fake smiles that gave me hint that he already left me a long time ago..

But, I f*cking love him so much. So damn much that I don’t want to see him anymore!

I am hurting but he is smiling.

I am struggling but he is still smiling.

I was the reason behind his smiles before until he can only force his smiles. Then, later on, I am not the one who could make him smile anymore.

I wish he knows how I can still manage to survive here after he broke me into pieces. I wish he sees what he did to me. I wish he did not approach me when in the end, he just left me.

God knows I’ve done so hard to forget him but he never left my system. Fool. Stupid. Weak. Helpless. Shattered.

Too. Much. Pain.

Someone, save me. Please.

CIVIL PROCEDURE: DBP VS. CASTILLO (Jurisprudence)

G.R. No. 163827 August 17, 2011

MEANING OF CAUSE OF ACTION

A cause of action is the act or omission by which a party violates a right of another. A complaint states a cause of action when it contains three (3) essential elements: (a) a right in favor of the plaintiff by whatever means and whatever law it arises; (b) the correlative obligation of the defendant to respect such right; and (c) the act or omission of the defendant violates the right of the plaintiff.

If any of these elements is absent, the complaint becomes vulnerable to a motion to dismiss on the ground of failure to state a cause of action.

CIVIL PROCEDURE: REPUBLIC VS. BANTIGUE POINT (Jurisprudence)

G.R. No. 162322 March 14, 2012

OBJECTIONS TO JURISDICTION OVER THE SUBJECT MATTER

The rule is settled that lack of jurisdiction over the subject matter may be raised at any stage of the proceedings. Jurisdiction over the subject matter is conferred only by the Constitution or the law. It cannot be acquired through a waiver or enlarged by the omission of the parties or conferred by the acquiescence of the court. Consequently, questions of jurisdiction may be cognizable even if raised for the first time on appeal.

CIVIL PROCEDURE: BARITUA VS MERCADER (Jurisprudence)

G.R. No. 136048 January 23, 2001

DOCTRINE OF ADHERENCE OF JURISDICTION

Generally. the jurisdiction of a court is determined by the statute in force at the commencement of the action, unless such statute provides for its retroactive application. Once the jurisdiction of a court attaches, it continues until the case is finally terminated. The trial court cannot be ousted therefrom by subsequent happenings or events, although of a character that would have prevented jurisdiction from attaching in the first instance.

CIVIL PROCEDURE: BAGUNU VS. AGGABAO (Jurisprudence)

G.R. No. 186487                                   August 15, 2011

DOCTRINE OF PRIMARY JURISDICTION

Under this doctrine, courts must refrain from determining a controversy involving a question which is within the jurisdiction of the administrative discretion requiring the special knowledge, experience and services of the administrative tribunal to determine technical and intricate matters of fact.

CIVIL PROCEDURE: REPUBLIC VS ROMAN CATHOLIC ARCHBISHOP OF MANILA (Jurisprudence)

G.R. No. 192975                         November 12, 2012

HOW JURISDICTION IS CONFERRED AND DETERMINED

It is axiomatic that the nature of an action and whether the tribunal has jurisdiction over such action are to be determined from the material allegations of the complaint, the law in force at the time the complaint is filed, and the character of the relief sought irrespective of whether the plaintiff is entitled to all or some of the claims averred. Jurisdiction is not affected by the pleas or the theories set up by defendant in an answer to the complaint or a motion to dismiss the same.